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Are You Dating or Married to the Wrong Person (This Is So Powerful)

Are You Dating or Married to the Wrong Person (This Is So Powerful)

Next to accept in Jesus Christ as your Lord
and Savior. Who you marry is the most important decision
that you’ll ever make in your life. Let me wait for the rest of y’all to catch
up with their very profound thing it’s very important a very important point it’s more
important than the job you take, the college you go to, more important than the house you
buy who you marry because they have the potential of making your life joyful or a nightmare. But I discoveres that and I’m talking about
this today because I’m coming into contact with more people that are getting married
to the wrong people for the wrong reasons and I feel compelled to talk about how you
discern who you are supposed to get married now. Don’t don’t marry somebody because of the
cars that they drive oh yeah y’all need to understand some people get attracted to somebody
because of the car they drive that car ain’t gonna last forever. Next see don’t don’t don’t marry somebody
because of the curves she has. Somebody say curves I mean she’s looking good
now but she ain’t gonna be like that all the time its gonna get like this ina minute. Come on somebody say just like that. But you got attracted to the curves but it
aint gon be like that all the time she’s gonna lose that. You don’t marry somebody because of their
countenance or their cuteness or how handsome they are you don’t go by what the mug look
like y’all put too much focus on external factors. You got to learn to look beyond what the person’s
external features are and learn to value and love people for who they are on the inside
and not what they look like on the outside. You don’t marry somebody because of how much
cash they have, some of y’all are attracted to people because they got money you don’t
love the person then you’re you’re pursuing stuff. What do you determine what do you what do
you look for you look for compatibility are we compatible do we have common interests,
do we have things that we like to do together, do we have things that we both enjoy, that
we both have interest in compatibility and I’m not talking about see see most a lot of
couples have an interest in sexual compatibility you’re not supposed to be having sex before
you get married in the first place. Sex before marriage is wrong. It’s a sin I’m telling you the truth and sex
after marriage is wrong if it’s not with the person your married to. The sints got real quiet for that one right
there but I’m not talking about sexual compatibility. I’m talking about life compatibility. You marry the person who determine your life-partner
compatibility also determine who your life partner ought to be on character. Do they have character
can I talk about that for couple minutes I’m going to finish because here’s what I discovered
I’m 58 I’ve been preaching for 43 years, pastoring 27 this church another church for
three my life is people, that’s what I do every day I live people, counsel people, talk
with people, help people and what I discovered and by is by in large people don’t change. Minus an encounter with the Spirit of God. Minus the Holy Spirit that person gonna be
the same after they get married they the same as they were before they got married. I know you think you can change them, if they
nasty before they got married they’re gonna be nasty after they get married ,if they tell
lies before you get married they’re gonna tell lies after you get married they treat
you me before you get married they will treat you mean after they treat their parents mean
they go they will do the same thing after they don’t respect authority before they’re
not gonna respect authority after people primarily have the same character. Sex before marriage will blind you to a person’s
true character. You didn’t see you didn’t see that they had
a drunken problem you didn’t see that they use drugs because you were so you were blinded
by your immorality you got blinded by it. Then you get married say I didn’t know that
there was this but they had it it was there but sex blinds you to the truths. Competence right competence down that’s an
important thing can I talk about that for a minute competence is the ability to practice
some skills and let me tell you something marriage is skill based, you need skills to
be married you need to ask yourself a question does this person have the confidence do they
have the skills to work and do they have the ability to work on being married. Unfortunately we have a lot of people that
don’t have the competence to be married. Let me give you the next one Communications
I’m almost finished I got I’m halfway through the lists can y’all communicate or do she
listen do she run her mouth all the time. Do she give you a chance to say anything. Does he talk does he communicate does he tell
you when he’s hurting does he speak out loud about was bothering him does he communicate
because a big part of marriage is communication. Here’s the next see children. How many children does he really have and
how many baby daddy do she have and how many children do you want to have. Abig problem with marriages as some people
one person comes to the merge expecting a certain number of kids and the other one had
a different number of kids that can be a big issue with families. Let me talk about the next thing cash management. Can they manage cash. We have the people we have the couples in
our church before they get married we had them do a credit report because the credit
reports gonna tell the story it’s going to tell you whether they got a lot of debt is
going to because when you get married to somebody you are joining to their debt you’re bringing
their assets and their debt their liabilities into y’all become one so if they got a lot
of debt you gonna have a lot of debt when you get married. You’re joining it’s a joining of assets and
the credit report is gonna show whether they pay their bills on time, how much money they
owe, who they walked away it’s gonna tell you a lot about a person and if they don’t
want you to do a credit report that’s telling you something too. Here’s my next one continence I need to
explain it to 12 o’clock route what that is continence means self-control. Can you sexually control yourself cuz I know
when you single and you you’re not married you won’t get married you think when you get
married its just gonna be sex all the time. People enter people enter into marriage thinking
that we will have sex all the time and people enter it I mean I got married when I came
home from work when I got out the car I was running. I thought I could be honest and transparent
with y’all but the truth of the matter is there are seasons in a marriage when sex is
off limits. It ain’t gonna be wild and crazy sex all
the time, as a matter of fact young men the greatest thing you can give to your fiancee
is to demonstrate that you have self-control. So you need to know that you contain yourself,
control yourself. When you get married you need to know what
the salvation status is of the person your. Not just a salvation standards what is their
spiritual status a matter of fact this is something you ought to be have a standard
established even before you start courting the person before you go on the first date
you need to find out where is you with Jesus. Yeah a whole lot of y’all are dating people
courting people spending time with people who are not saved don’t go to nobodies Church
don’t have no spiritual interests and you’re totally disregarding the instructions of God
as a matter of fact just because they go to church don’t mean they saved. I’m amazed at the number of people I talked
to who are about to get married or contemplating marriage and I say where is your is your potential
saved and they tell me they don’t know. I want to know what do y’all talk about how
could you not know when you spending all this time and all this energy how could you not
know the spiritual status of that person here’s the deal if a person has a walk with God somehow
some way is going to come out its gonna be manifested. Either they’ll talk about something God told
them, something God did for them, some scripture that they read some message that they heard
some prayer that God answered ought to be some sign if you are believing they’re ought
to be some sign somewhere in some capacity somewhere somehow sometimes God ought to do
something for you and you ought to be talking about. And number two you need your parents blessings
and so somebody said what if I don’t have my parents blessing well that that’s a sign
that there might be something wrong here that might be a sign to wait or it may be sign
that it’s not the right person person and I’m telling the children today the only young
adults you get married you want you don’t want your parents just their consent you want
their full blessings you want their amen you want God to give you an amen on it somebody
said what if you can’t get it. Well if you feel so strongly that God has
told you that this is the person but your parents doesn’t give you have not and didn’t
give you the blessing the two of you need to go and sit down with your parents and find
out what the issue is and see if you can resolve what the issue is. Here’s here’s a third and important thing
it is here from God you need to hear from God’s voice you need to you need to ask God
however God communicates with you ask him to communicate to you clearly this very important
decision it is the most important decision in life other than accepting Jesus. Ask him to talk to you however whatever it
takes whatever he needs to do ask him to give you clarity because first Samuel 15 jot this
down verse 22 right in the middle of it says to obey is better than sacrifice. God don’t want you to sacrifice when it comes
he wants you to be obedient to him obey who it is what it is he tells you to do. Now I wanted a word from God before I got
married I wanted a word from God man I needed a word from God I needed God to tell me clearly
who I was supposed to be married to because you know I wanted to be married to the right
person cuz you know I had hundreds of women chasing after me and I believe wherever you
are in your walk with God whatever you need God to do to give you clarity he will do what
it takes to help you understand what it is that you need to do and who you need to be
married to because that is a very important message and a very important decision in your
life he’ll communicate it to you and you need them work you need a word from God look at
your neighbor say you need a word from God look on the other side of you on the other
side say you need a word from God. I’m sorry I didn’t have a nice make you shout
message today but if you take this and apply it to your life and get married to the right
person it will make you make your shout. Praying right now interceeding for somebody
today on the brink of a decision that could alter their life. I pray now father that you would help your
sons and daughters to make wise choices and wise decisions. I’m praying God for people who made bad decisions
that you’d give them another chance give us a heart to repent father I pray plead with
you that there are troubled marriages in this that are listening to this message right even
now but God I pray that you would be the God that would step in and bring healing and deliverance
to troubled marriages we could model to the world the love that you Lord have for your
church in Jesus name. Amen

100 comments found

  1. I ruined everything with my girl/future wife… I couldnt leave other women alone smh now she wont even pick up the phone… I pray to God I see her at church tomorrow but if I dont then I know it wasnt meant to be…. I let my relationship fall I never appreciated her smh this whole situation has me sick to my stomach…..

  2. I lovvvved three points… report , spiritual status, parents blessings…..these are of utmost importance.

  3. This is all BS. There are no perfect marriages or perfect men and women. Deal with it. And if it doesn't work out, pack and move out. Don't waste time trying to save your marriage just because you are afraid what people will think about you or if your family will not accept. Don't stay unhappy and lost in one person relationship. Don't make my mistakes. Get out ASAP. And if he or she betrays you, don't give second chance.
    Get over it. Turn the page and start anew.
    You will not regret it.

  4. I was waiting for 10 years to see blessing from my parents n the “yes” from god to finally marry with some one who i thought he is the one but he cheated for third time without even marring n suddenly i woke up n now after one year passed I’m thankful to god n thankful to my self which finally listen to the glory n left that doom unhealthy relationship 🙏🏼💕🌷

  5. I have a boyfriend 8yrs in relationship and I give up my verginity to him with no assurance. He's still my boyfriend now.But I'm confusing if I want him to be my future husband.when I hear this message.My Sovereign God please reveal your plan and purpose, help me to my decisions.

  6. If i am compatible with some1 who have had sex before should i leave them just because they committed sin having sex before marriage.
    8:34 what movie is it???

  7. I was better when I was single being married gives me depression I just thought that the person I married I could trust the feeling of your life is in danger every time he is around. The only want I want to keep and get stress from is my children. I hope that id get out soon.

  8. Dear future husband,
    Ive been waiting for you for 34yrs.
    I am still patiently waiting for you.
    I know God will make a step for us to know each other. Im just here.
    Thanks for the inspiration of this video.

  9. It’s really tuff decision to make because if you find same ego same pride and attitude then no need to die a see for seeing hell you will be fell here on earth alive so find a someone value and respect you and no matter what she always with you even you are in bad condition or economic crises and at last if you find this girls please contact me 😁😁girls with less attitude pride not exist in this earth so if available here in earth means she from heaven and she is angel

  10. This is so true. I believe when couples decide to get marriage, there should be some kind of counseling, and rehearsal of life classes first. Especially so when they are Christians.

  11. Believe in someone who believes in god and love, there’s a lots of fake people do everything for sex but never forget that pain you had before cause of them , if you always remember your hard times I’m sure you won’t fall in love and give your life to someone else easily you respect yourself and your life will be something precious you won’t ruin it so easily for someone, being alone is so much better than noticing you have wasted all your times to someone who just wanted use you like something so unvalued

  12. Oooooohhhh my God why do I watch this wonderful vedio that makes me cry & yet still am single Dear my dream man sex before marriage is asin! Wherever you're l love u so much in advance don't try to get into temptations before we meet!!!where are youuuuu am tired of waiting u dear …

  13. This was a good message until he got to sex before marriage is wrong and that’s it’s a sin. It’s not a sin and sex before marriage it’s okay to have and shouldn’t be judged for it. Otherwise it’s also a sin for women to wear pants.. ridiculous

  14. Still waiting to the right person in Gods perfect time.. 😇❤ Hi there I'm praying for you always.
    Always inlove with GOD. 😍🥰❤

  15. What happens when you don’t love your spouse like that anymore. You’re unhappy, miserable but you stay for your kids…?


  16. Listen to the pastor. You don't wanna be a horny "goat". The goat is attached to satanism aka the devil and you dont wanna be on that side of the street. And when you take that knee to propose make sure you mean it. Best wishes may your love be true and endure.

  17. I married the wrong person. My life was very hard. I ended up getting a divorce and then six years later I remarried another wrong person. I have never felt the true love of a man because of this. I live by myself now. If it were not for Jesus I would feel totally alone. 🙋🙋🙏🏻🙏🏻

  18. I’m not gonna get married without sex homie. I met a church girl, she told me she was a virgin I find out she was not. Bro trust me bro no no no 🤔🤔

  19. Future wife, if you are listening just know that the man you’re praying for is on his way. He’s being broken down, molded, refined through the fire, reshaped, disciplined, and being built into the man that God wants him to be.
    I will see you soon.

  20. Matthew 24:24 (KJV) For there shall arise false Christs, and false prophets, and shall shew great signs and wonders; insomuch that, if it were possible, they shall deceive the very elect.

    John 3:5-7 (KJV) Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of WATER and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.
    That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit.
    Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again.

    1 John 2:3-7 (KJV) And hereby we do know that we know him, if we keep his commandments.
    He that saith, I know him, and keepeth not his commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him.
    But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in him.
    He that saith he abideth in him ought himself also so to walk, even as he walked.
    Brethren, I write no new commandment unto you, but an old commandment which ye had from the beginning. The old commandment is the word which ye have heard from the beginning.

    Matthew 28:18-20 (KJV) And Jesus came and spake unto them, saying, All power is given unto me in heaven and in earth.
    Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost:
    Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you alway, even unto the end of the world. Amen.

    All scriptural

  21. Men Going There Own Way!!! I don't believe there are any good ladies left!!! Just a bunch of women who have seen pretty woman too many times!!! Men aren't scared of marriage but we are terrified of devorse court!!!

  22. I completely agree with you sir!!
    Keep teaching us, this is what our world needs so so so badly 😘
    God bless you abundantly all, 😘

  23. The fact is, is that there is a good woman shortage. Almost impossible for a man to find a suitable woman to marry. Because most women today are untrustworthy sluts that already have kids with 3 dudes.

  24. Thank you Lord for preparing my amazing soulmate to be with! Uniting us in your merciful! Amen🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏

  25. Sex lust is sin in Creators eye. Beautiful faces are very boring without eternal essence. Color of mind is more valuable than skin color. External factors are perishable but eternal are unchangeable. God loves those who follow His commandments.

  26. some say it’s easy to get married .. i just realized it’s not … after listening to this .. this must be preached to the church always

  27. Dear future husband be good to me in the future ❤ I will love you with all my heart but where are you now I'm running 23 I'm going old😂😅with this single life

  28. Dear Ghini.
    I realize if I don't surrender my own will and put your salvation before our relationship, then I'm too much of aa hypocrite to love you. Jesus loves you. I sincerely pray that God will reveal Himself in your heart, and draw us towards Him. Since there is not much I can do by myself, it's time for God's glory to shine through impossible. I will trust the LORD with all my heart! Amen.

  29. The truth is "no one is certain what happens to us next". So, things happen when it is supposed to happen no matter what! Your fortune is written before u were concieved in ur mothers womb!! U cant be so precised and certain about marriage so much!! U cm across sm1 for a reason..

  30. I have a loving husband, his parents love me too. They are good people. Everything is fine about them except that they are not saved. I pray day and night for them and I request all you friends to pray for my family too

  31. A nightmare… Ruin your life and there own in the process… Cause drama and tear your family apart… Then what's left? Not happiness… Hell!

  32. Get to know how he treats his parents before saying "I do". Learn what a narcissist is because they are wolves in sheep clothing. Be discerning in life and take your time to avoid foolishness.

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