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How To Get Through A Hard Time In Your Marriage

How To Get Through A Hard Time In Your Marriage


>>>I KNOW YOU NOTICED IT. MORE AND MORE PEOPLE PUTTING OFF MARRIAGE EVEN IF THEY’RE IN LOVING RELATIONSHIPS. IS BEING GUN SHH A GOOD THING. WITH MORE ON THE USERS GUIDE TO LOVE AND MONEY. STACY FOUNDER OF THH DAILY AFFAIR, YOU CAN’T AFFORD TO BREAK UP. WELCOME TO THE SHOW. I SENSE, BECAUSE YOU SEE THE NUMBERS LIKE HOW LONG PEOPLE WAIT TO GET MARRIED CURRENTLY PEOPLE THEY ARE WAITING UNTIL THEY ARE 29 AND 27, MEN AND WOMEN TO GET MARRIED. REAL RELUCTANCE TO MAKE THE COMMITMENT. WHY IS IT HAPPENING?>>WELL, PEOPLE TODAY ARE USING — ESPECIALLY YOUNG ADULTS ARE HAVING MARRIAGE NOW AS THE CAPSTONE RATHER THAN THE CORNER STONE. THAT IS THEY ARE WAITING TO PUT — GET ALL THEIR DUCKS IN A ROW. THEY WANT TO HAVE THE CAREER AND FINANCIALLY SOLVENT BEFORE THEY TAKE THE NEXT STEP.>>LET ME TELL YOU, I’M WAITING FOR MY DUCKS TO BE IN A ROW STILL. CULTURALLY YOUNG ADULTS HAVE INCREASINGLY BECOME TO SEE MARRIAGE AS CAPSTONE RATHER THAN CORNER STONE AFTER THEY HAVE THE DUCKS IN THE ROW RATHER THAN A FOUNDATION FOR LAUNCH ADULTHOOD AND PARENTALLY HOOD. IT’S THINKING DIFFERENTLY ABOUT YOUR LIFE AT THE END OF THE DAY — HE WERE TALKING ABOUT SHOULD YOU GET THE PRENUP. I WAS THE ONLY ONE IN THE ROOM VOTING NO. I GUESS I’M OLD FASHIONED. PEOPLE SEE THE INSTITUTION DIFFERENTLY TODAY.>>PEOPLE DEFINITELY DO. I’M OLD FASHIONED LIKE YOU, I THINK IT IS BECAUSE OF WE’RE OF A CERTAIN AGE. IT YOU’RE IN YOUR 20S AND 30S, YOU KNOW, IF YOU’RE A FEMALE, YOU WANT TO BE COMPETING JUST LIKE THE GUYS. YOU WANT TO HAVE YOUR CAREER. YOU WANT TO PUT OFF HAVING CHILDREN. THEN YOU’RE GOING TO GET MARRIED. IF YOU HAVE DONE ALL THE WORK TO GET A CAREER AND TAKE THE OFF TO HAVE A CHILD. WHAT IF YOOR HUSBAND IS NOT WORKING. GERRI: WHEN WE GET CRITICIZED FOR HAVING IT ALL AND DON’T AND GET CRITICIZED FOR THAT TOO. I WANT TO TALK ABOUT THE TOPIC WE’RE TACKLING TODAY. THE IDEA OF HITTING A FINANCIAL PROBLEM. HAVING A TRAGEDY THAT IS FINANCIALLY EITHER AN ILLNESSES OR, YOU KNOW, SOME KIND OF BIG BILL THAT ARRIVES AT YOUR DOORSTEP. YOU SAY TOO OFTEN COUPLES WILL USE IT AS AN EXCUSE TO GET A DIVORCE.>>I THINK THE FIRST THOUGHT IS, GET ME OUT OF HERE! YOU WANT TO ESCAPE WHETHER IT IS LITERALLY GATE DIVORCE OR SEPARATE OR IN YOUR HEAD. YOU KNOW, ESCAPE FROM THE SITUATION OR HAVE AN AFFAIR OR TURN TO DRINKING OR DRUGS. GERRI: THERE IS A –>>MANY. MANY.>>YEAH. GERRI: CAN YOU RECOMMIT?>>ABSOLUTELY. IN FACT, THAT SAME STUDY THAT YOU TALKED ABOUT, THEY DID A STUDY OF ALMOST 1200 PEOPLE, AND — WHO WERE MARRIED 18 TO 45. 29% FELT THE RECESSION MADE THEM DEEPEN THEIR COMMITMENT TO THE MARRIAGE. AND ALMOST 40% HAD BEEN CONSIDERING DIVORCING BEFORE THE RECESSION WOUND UP THROWING THAT IDEA AWAY AND STAYING TOGETHER. SO IT IS IRONIC BECAUSE ACTUALLY DIVORCE RATES AND INFIDELITY DROP WHEN YOU HAVE HARD ECONOMIC TIMES. PEOPLE WANT TO STAY TOGETHER. GERRI: THE EXPECTATIONS WE’LL HAVE A HIGHER RATE OF DIVORCE NOW THAT THE RECESSION HAS SORT OF LIFTED EVEN THOUGH WE DON’T HAVE GREAT GROWTH. YOU WOULD THINK THAT, BUT THE OPPOSITE IS ACTUALLY HAS BEEN HAPPENING IN AND THE SAME HAPPENED IN ENGLAND. GERRI: I WANTED TO TALK ABOUT THIS. THE ECONOMY GOES SOUTH. YOU GET TESTED. MAYBE BECAUSE OF AN ILLNESSES MAYBE BECAUSE YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THE FAMILY. IT’S THOSE TESTS, THOUGH, THAT GIVE YOU THE CONFIDENCE TO BE A COUPLE IN THE FUTURE; RIGHT? THAT WHAT TELLS YOU WE’RE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER, LOOK WHAT WE SURVIVED.>>EXACTLY. YOU LOOK AT SCOTT AND BETHENNY WHO YOU JUST INTERVIEWED. PEOPLE GET TOGETHER THROUGH ADVERSE TIME. IT’S PART OF THE MARRIAGE VOW IN BAD TIMES AND GOOD TIMES, HEALTH AND SICKNESS. ALL OF THOSE. THAT’S WHAT YOU REMEMBER. THAT’S WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER. WHEN YOU GET THROUGH THOSE TOUGH TIMES TOGETHER.>>STACY, THANK YOU FOR COMING ON WITH YOUR GREAT TIPS. GOOD STUFF. THANK YOU.>>MY PLEASURE.>>>WE WANT TO KNOW WHAT YOU THINK. HERE IS OUR QUESTION. DO MARRIAGES FAIL BECAUSE OF LOVE OR MONEY? LOG ON TO JERRY

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