Tj Host

A morning in China, coming out of my house in the cold. All these women are on their way to work. Shenzhen is filled with working ladies they all came out of my building. I’m on my way to Tai-Chi. The construction is still going, so noisy it’s annoying. But anyway, nothing I can do. A lot of women in Shenzhen Wow, a lot of women actually. Hey isn’t it funny, they all came here to grab a cab and so did I. All of them are alone, they all live alone in their apartments. Well, I’m not that positive they live alone but that building where I live is mostly for single people not married ones. I love these types of taxis, just look at it. Look, another girl waiting for a cab. Guess what you guys this is quite sad, they’re talking about how many women come to the park alone everyday looking for a boyfriend she says she has a house, car, money and she is all independent but can’t seem to find a boyfriend she says she is 44 years old Mar you need to escape from Shenzhen. Shenzhen is an amazing place to develop profesionally but that’s it! What do you guys think? That this lady has several women neighbors that come to this park they put their adds and look for men, but they don’t find any at 44. While in Shenzhen there are many many beautiful, young, smart women Very beautiful. Incredible. In China they call them Sheng nv Guys, we’re talking and this is super interesting They say that there are certain types of women who have like 38 years old who have a house in China they have a job and a car and that they’re looking for someone because they’re left out. They say they want a man who is taller than them like I think we all do and well in better shape than they are. But she says, really funny, that ok the man must have a house also so they can’t like use both houses but they think it’s unfair if they have a house and he doesn’t. And then the other woman said: Well I have some friends in which she had a house and he didn’t but still they live together, he went over to her house. But many women don’t accept that. It’s like I have more than you so why should I invite you over to my house you should have a house also. They say “Well you can’t use both houses that’s ridiculous”. It’s funny but this is the problem that women live nowadays in China. I think I can also relate to this I’m not going to call it problem per se in this social situation that exists in which here in Shenzhen many women came migrating from many provinces looking for a job specially because it’s so close to Hong Kong so that makes it easier to find a man with money. Like me Just kidding! I came here for the job. But still I can look here and there. It’s funny but the conditions that women have here are the woman is saying “As long as he has a house it’s ok.” I love it. And we the young ones are like “Do you know how much a house is? There are not cheap houses anymore nowadays.” Having a house is extremely well. Houses here are like I live in an appartment one bedroom only, its 40 mt. square and it’s selling for like $440,288 dollars. I mean just imagine like the lady says “As long as he has a house it’s ok” I mean a house for two people to live or to fit in a family it’s around $20 million mexican peso. It’s not that simple. And we’re like “Come on lady, it’s hard, we’re not in your century anymore.” Most people nowadays, young generations can’t afford to buy a house they have to get loans and then they owe a lot of money and in China houses are very expensive, it’s a big issue in here economically speaking. Women’s conditions here are they must have a house and have a car. It’s not that simple. Now it turns out that if men do have it, they want him to have more. Even though I don’t know how they can live in two houses, but oh well… I guess they say “I’ll sell mine” or something like that. I live in a rented apartment buying a house in China would be… wow. Anyway, this is what women live here and it is interesting because like I tell you, I have my friends like my friend Kelly, I think you guys have seen her, she is so pretty and she is 26 years old. I’ve been her friend for almost 3 years and she hasn’t had a serious relationship she has gone out with some guys but then they dump her. Two dates and then they disappear. Like I’ve said in previous videos they take you out and then I don’t know what happens but they don’t invite you anymore. That’s what happens. I have another friend also who is really pretty, great body a really nice girl Jessi I think some of you already know her too. Same thing. I’ve known her for 3 years, we met in yoga class and she hasn’t had a serious relationship in all this time. I was the one who did have a serious thing, my Chinese ex-boyfriend we didn’t last long, only like 6 months or so and things were serious, I went home to visit his family you know, to give one more step into the relationship but we broke up, many of you ask me why we broke up I don’t think he was the guy for me. We broke up, I’m quite happy now, the breakup didn’t hurt or anything. I mean we had a great time, it’s not like I was super happy to break it up. The teacher is coming to yell at me because I’m in here filming. He is going to say “Mar you are not coming here to study Tai-Chi, just to gossip in your phone.” Well I’ll tell you more about it later on but my point was just like my friends, there are many other women and we always say we’re going out to meet some guys and yeah you know here they mean going to a restaurant, a bar, movies all these places to try and get noticed. People are really busy I mean if you’re working a lot go from home to work, it’s really hard to find someone ’cause people here don’t look at each other on the streets it’s not like Mexico or another country where you walk by and they’re like “Oh look at her.” Nope. Here it’s not that common to meet a person on the streets. On your way to work or back. And well, this is what it is. I’m going to get together with my friends to talk more about this situation so that they can tell you from their point of view of Chinese women living in China around 25 to 35 years old, I have many friends in the market who are older than 30 who are really pretty, smart, they have money and their business in the market but don’t have a boyfriend. And that’s how it is The lady here says that in this park she has previously put out some videos about some advertisements some advertisements have really strict requirements of women who are around 38, 44 or so who want him to have a salary of many thousands a month to have a house, a car. I thought people who came over to the park were more simple and just put an advertisement looking for a man and that’s it but no, they don’t settle for that. And here we are laughing with the lady What man, successful and rich enough is going to be here in this park looking for a woman of 40 years old I don’t mean to be rude with the age thing but I mean come on the moment he rides his Porsche around the streets of Shenzhen he is easily spotted by many young and beautiful ladies. I don’t know, the lady was saying that this whole thing is kind of unrealistic for people to come here and have such high standards after they have that age and I mean yeah, they have their own money but I mean come on be a little more realistic to the situation. It doesn’t make sense I mean, I’m this many years old I have this much money and I want this, and nothing less. Nothing less. Anyway. It’s something that it’s something that it’s kind of funny in a way but it’s a serious matter because there are many people who are not going to get married or are not going to have a family and be all alone. I live in an apartment which is kind of like a studio and it’s only for one person and in that building many of the apartments are for one person only I mean, next to me, thousands of women not thousands, maybe hundreds of women who are single, they go to work, earn money they travel. In my WeChat in the Chinese social media many women appear that they go give their own luxuries travel, massages, shopping, everything all alone. And they don’t find anybody because their requirements are higher and it’s complicated and they don’t lower their standards and they stay single like that, years go by. What do you guys think? I think it’s really different, you guys please comment. Me in Mexico, actually it’s been around 10 years that I don’t live there so I wouldn’t really know but my experience was that there they don’t if a woman wants love then she goes with something that is good and that’s it, it’s not like here they want gold all wrapped up yeah, it’s quite unreal and impressive I mean it’s great that you give high value for yourself but I don’t know I think it’s something weird. Please give me your opinion, I know you guys live in many parts of the world and it would be interesting to see how the situation is in your countries. To the women older than 30, who are still single, what does society say about them expectations, what do men think? If you’re a man what are your thoughts? Gotta go.