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Why Yemen Won’t Ban Child Marriage and Rape

Why Yemen Won’t Ban Child Marriage and Rape

Nujood Ali was just an eight-year-old child
when her father arranged for her get married. She was one of 16 children. She loved school
and playing games with her brothers and sisters. Suddenly I was married. They got me clothes
and things so I wore them and they put make-up on for me. I was young, and I was happy with
all these things but I didn’t now it was for marriage, or what it meant. The man she married was three times her age.
He was a delivery driver who lived in a distant village. Nujood’s father made a deal with
his family. Why did you marry Nujood off? I married her off because of some compelling
circumstances. Things were difficult. That was the reason. There’s something very different about weddings
in Yemen. At celebrations like this, the groom is front and centre but you don’t see any
women, not even the bride. And when the bride is a child, she’s locked away, sometimes not
sure what the celebrations are all about. They had music playing and they were singing
and in the evening everyone went home. And I was crying. I wanted to go home. They said
“You’re married. You can’t go home.” I asked why. They said “You’re married now. You can’t
go back.” Nujood’s father was following a very common
practice in Yemen. Parents arrange marriages for their children when they are very young. But didn’t you think that this child Nujood,
just eight years old, that when a man had intercourse with her, it would cause injury? I thought… They said he’d only sleep with
her after a long period of time. At puberty. Puberty, yes. A year after. But the man didn’t
respect her and he did not respect us. He sexually assaulted me on the wedding night,
forced me. I was with his mother, sister and sister-in-law. Then his sister-in-law left
and his mother and sister stayed. He assaulted me. He said “Now you’re my wife.” Was his mother there when he sexually assaulted
you? Yes, his mother was holding me. Holding you. Yes, like this. Of course, I was screaming
but no one came to help me. Under Yemeni law, there is no crime of marital
rape and Nujood had no help from her family. They told her she now belonged to her husband
and had to face up to her duty. So you were crying and screaming… I was screaming as loud as I could, crying,
I was like begging them but no one…They said “You’re married now. You can’t scream
or beg anyone.” Nujood’s mother Samir believed that the marriage
would ease the burden on their family and give her daughter a better life. We married her off. Our circumstances were
difficult and the situation was harsh. We couldn’t feed them or clothe them. We couldn’t
provide anything. So we married her off. That would mean one less child. Despite her pleas for help, Nujood’s family
turned their back on her. They said she had to honour her marriage and avoid shaming the
family. I hoped that my parents would save me from
this marriage. But there was no hope of that though I had high hopes. I went to Dad, my
maternal uncle, my paternal uncle, but none of them would help me. So I thought I’m better
off helping myself than asking them to help me. With extraordinary courage for a 10-year-old,
Nujood set out to end her misery. Choosing a moment when her husband wasn’t looking,
she made a bid for freedom. I ran away. I took public transport. A bus,
then taxi. The driver asked “Where do you want to go?” I said “The court.” He said “Which
court?” I said “Just the court.” I didn’t know its name. He took me there. Nujood arrived at West Sanaa’s courthouse
where she sat sadly wondering what to do next. There was a strong possibility the court would
decide Nujood was a runaway and return her to her husband. Instead, she met a judge who
was astounded by her age and her courage. She started to tell me her story. I became
even more surprised. Is this for real? “What happened?” She said “Something black.” She
was shy so she didn’t say “intercourse”. When you say “black”, it means bad, not good. Intercourse.
“Don’t worry. Who is with you?” “I came on my own.” When the families gathered in court, the judge
told them that under Sharia law the marriage was legal. But he declared the husband should
have waited until Nujood reached puberty before having sex with her. So he granted her a divorce. If we look at Yemeni law… it does not specify
a certain age for marriage. Which means that a marriage contract can take place even if
the boy or the girl are still young. But here we have to differentiate between two things:
the marriage procedures and the actual practice of it, having intercourse with the wife. I’d like to ask you a question. Answer me
honestly. Are you guilty or not, as regards the marriage? The girl’s marriage? I’m guilty and the reason for this is poverty. -The reason is poverty?
-It is. I wouldn’t have married her off otherwise. Are you thinking of getting married again? No, no, no. Never in my life. No, no, no. Never in my life. of everything except marriage. I’ve removed
it from my mind, from my thinking. Ghadir Ali is another young Yemeni girl whose
father planned to marry her off to a much older man. She was just 12 and he wanted to
use her dowry to pay off his debts. Ghadir refused. After you said you refused, what did you do? He swore he’d kill me. -He swore he’d kill me.
-Kill you? I forced her to marry. I said “Either you agree, or I’ll kill you.” This was what I said.
“If you don’t agree, I’ll kill you.” Then she kept quiet. Then her uncles came to the wedding.
And during the procession they took her. -Her uncles?
-Yes. They took her during the procession. Ghadir’s wedding turned into an ugly family
fight. Her maternal uncle turned up determined to prevent the marriage. I only found out about the wedding on the
wedding day. I went to her and asked her “So, girl, are you getting married?” She said “Uncle,
I don’t want to marry. He forced me.” “How could he force you?” I said. “How could he
force you at your age?” I called her father. “How could you force the girl?” Didn’t this result in an argument, a gunfight? Yes, armed men came and this and that and
they beat me up. Did they beat you? They beat me up and said “Why are you marrying
her off? She’s a minor?” “You’re marrying her off? She’s a minor, you bastard.” I said
“I asked you to help me but none of you did.” In the end, the case came down to a legal
argument about money, Ghadir’s prospective husband had paid a large dowry and he wanted
it back. The court had to decide whether the marriage was a valid contract. Excuse me, sir. I’m the husband’s lawyer.
Sir, the fact is she consented to the marriage. She fingerprinted the contract. The father was the one who went to my client and asked him to marry his daughter. The father came first Her father came to me and said “I’ll marry her off to you” and we entered into the contract And she agreed and put her thumbprint on it. No one forced her. The celebrant, the judge, asked “Do you agree?” She said yes. He told her to thumbprint it.
We had witnesses. I paid all the wedding expenses. The procession…
Legal procedures… All my siblings lost money. While the lawyers argued, Ghadir waited outside
the court, a child caught up in an adult world beyond her understanding. She is one of many victims in Yemen because
of the financial situation of her family. Ghadir was married off because her father
had borrowed 300,000. She and her sister, who’s also a minor, were married off. Both
of them were married off and the father paid off his debt. Ghadir no longer lives with her husband but,
while the legal argument continues, her divorce has not yet been granted. In Yemen, the Human
Rights Watch estimates that more than half of all young girls are married before they’re
18. Marriages of girls as young as nine or 10 are common. Four years ago, the parliament
attempted to pass legislation making 17 the minimum age for marriage but it was blocked
by members of the opposition party -Yemen’s Muslim Brotherhood. No one has the right, not the president, the
parliament or anyone, to restrict something God has allowed. Sheikh Mohammed Al-Hazmi is a member of Yemen’s
parliament and an Islamic scholar. Islam doesn’t specify an age for marriage.
Why do they look into something that is not an issue? Why do they make a problem out of
nothing? I want to ask…Why is early marriage a problem? Nujood’s divorce made her an international
celebrity. The media spotlight transformed the life of a shy 10-year-old girl. An American
fashion magazine staged a glittering awards ceremony in New York where Nujood was declared
Woman of the Year. A book about Nujood became an international best seller and the royalties
were put towards her education and a new house for her family in Yemen. This is for my sister and me. -For you and your sister?
-Yes. -It’s your room?
-Yes, we always sit in here. Are you happy with your father, after what he did to you? No, if I said I was I’d be lying. I’m not happy with him. -You’re not.
-I’m not. Are you still hurting? I’m still hurting, and every time I see him,
I suffer. Nujood’s younger sister Haifa is not sure
that her father has changed his ways. She’s frightened that he might try to arrange a
marriage for her. After what I’ve seen with my sister, I’m shocked.
That’s it, I don’t want it. You’re scared that the same might happen to
you. If the same thing happened to you, what would
you do? What would I do? I would not stay with him,
I’d run away. -You’d run away to avoid the marriage?
-Yes Will you do it again and marry another daughter
off at a young age? No, I won’t marry anyone off. Never again. -You won’t marry them off?
-Not until they’re over 22. What is my wish in life? At the moment, I
have no wish, only to continue my education. To finish primary school, high school and
God willing university and after that, I’m thinking… myself and other people, of establishing
an organisation to combat the phenomenon of early marriage or child marriage.

100 comments found

  1. The mother was holding her down and watching while the son was sexually abusing her? How twisted and disgusting. I wonder what other perverse things this family would partake in.

  2. this is evil plan western to make the war on the countries when u enter that country you worst than the reason you come for, like what you did in Afghanistan and Iraq and many countries

  3. They make 1.25 a day. A egg cost 3.50. They eat many times once a day. You ask why they do not use birth control. Find out the facts before you judge. Plus many or children who are forced into marriage.

  4. This will happen in the west too once Islam takes over. It's ironic because feminists empower them.

  5. This is beyond sick and heartbreaking! May all of this young girl, who had the courage to go to court and got help from them, may all her dreams come true!! May God Bless her and i hope she will one day be able to help other girls that have to go through what she went through!!!

  6. For fuck's sake let the children enjoy their childhood! This kind of culture doesn't breed love, but it breeds exploitation and wrong sense of masculinity. They will be judged someday!

  7. It's so sad..getting those poor girl's hopes up letting them got to school,have dreams..only to marry them off to perverts.

  8. maybe a reason why poor ppl should not get kids, and at least not more then what they can afford to feed, and also get some wisdom into the cavemen brains of u-countrys ppl.

  9. wonder if these clerics would change a stance on this if all the clerics had to be married away at age 8 and have forced sex at age 8 with females looking like bearded men at age 50

  10. Poor families only do this because they have no money and they need there daughters to be married because the man will take care care of the girl and the family will have more ability to feed the other family members (astkforlah)

  11. what happened to nojoud was really wrong thing to happen to an eight years old girl , things like this do happen in yemen but rarely because of the uneducated people .
    what her father said was a lie because he definetly believed that it's OK to get her married .
    what I want to put the light on is that doesn't happen all the time and it happen only in the country side uneducated areas .
    u.s definitely has no right to claim that all Yemeni people do this and what happened in yemen could not be possibly compared to the child abuse that you might find in United great states 😞 .
    so , enough with the manipulation and try to send a clear honest message about what's going on 👎

  12. Lol..look at the lies the media publicizes and the imbeciles who are willing to watch and leave an ignorant ass comment

  13. This is disgusting. How can the government be okay with this? Why won’t women protest more and speak up like the little girl! I feel so lucky to live in England. Before the suffragette movement women had practically no rights like these women. They took action these people should too! I send my prayers to those poor girls and women 🙏

  14. Big Brother United States is giving millions of tax payer dollars (as much as $115 Mill in 2015) to this perverted nation. What government will allow a crime like child rape to be a part of it's society? Stop sending this bastard nation our money!

  15. Qur'an 4:19
    O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may Take away part of the dower ye have given them,-except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.

    Bible. 1 Corinthians 7King James Version (KJV)36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

    Leviticus 15King James Version (KJV)24 And if any man lie with her at all, and her flowers be upon him, he shall be unclean seven days; and all the bed whereon he lieth shall be unclean. – Age of consent – Wikipedia

    In the United States, as late as the 1880s most States set the minimum age at 10–12, (in Delaware it was 7 in 1895).[11] Inspired by the "Maiden Tribute" female reformers in the US initiated their own campaign[12] which petitioned legislators to raise the legal minimum age to at least 16, with the ultimate goal to raise the age to 18. The campaign was successful, with almost all states raising the minimum age to 16–18 years by 1920.[5]

    The Bible says it's ok to marry virgins long as they have passed puberty, if you know anything about puberty in women you​understand puberty starts anywhere from age 7-12, most likely everyone's ancestors operated the same way, Christians operated the same way, read more about the history of age of consent, however both books say to follow the laws of the land so most places age of consent is normally around 18, you will run into this topic.

    1 Chronicles 16:22 Saying, Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm.

    Psalms 105:15 Saying, Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm.

    Matthew 15:3 But he answered and said unto them, Why do ye also transgress the commandment of God by your tradition?

    Mark 7:7 Howbeit in vain do they worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men.

    Mark 7:8 For laying aside the commandment of God, ye hold the tradition of men, as the washing of pots and cups: and many other such like things ye do.

    Mark 7:9 And he said unto them, Full well ye reject the commandment of God, that ye may keep your own tradition.

    Mark 7:13 Making the word of God of none effect through your tradition, which ye have delivered: and many such like things do ye.

  16. وَلَا تَقْتُلُوا أَوْلَادَكُمْ خَشْيَةَ إِمْلَاقٍ ۖ نَحْنُ نَرْزُقُهُمْ وَإِيَّاكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ قَتْلَهُمْ كَانَ خِطْئًا كَبِيرًا

    (Sahih International)
    And do not kill your children for fear of poverty. We provide for them and for you. Indeed, their killing is ever a great sin.

    -Sura Al-Isra', Ayah 31

    وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَا ۖ إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا

    (Sahih International)
    And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.

    -Sura Al-Isra', Ayah 32

  17. وَالْقَوَاعِدُ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ اللَّاتِي لَا يَرْجُونَ نِكَاحًا فَلَيْسَ عَلَيْهِنَّ جُنَاحٌ أَنْ يَضَعْنَ ثِيَابَهُنَّ غَيْرَ مُتَبَرِّجَاتٍ بِزِينَةٍ ۖ وَأَنْ يَسْتَعْفِفْنَ خَيْرٌ لَهُنَّ ۗ وَاللَّهُ سَمِيعٌ عَلِيمٌ

    (Sahih International)
    And women of post-menstrual age who have no desire for marriage – there is no blame upon them for putting aside their outer garments [but] not displaying adornment. But to modestly refrain [from that] is better for them. And Allah is Hearing and Knowing.

    -Sura An-Nur, Ayah 60

  18. I think the UN should administer many countries until they develop civilized institutions. The alternative is to leave shithole countries alone and treat them as if they were part of the International Community abandoning defenceless people to their fate.

  19. Yemen are evil this is band on saudi and yamen attack on our country what a fake good people one time a man he is yemen try to rape me i punch him and i call my friend police and arrest him he his a man!! Am just a boy

  20. Why can't you stop after two why make scoocer team you ..trash bags….humiliating Islam holy religion by quench your thirst …hell is well decorate for all of you ….don't worry …😈👿

  21. How about you close your damn legs so your little child does not have to spread hers you sick witch. I have too many children so I am going to give them away as child sex slaves to the nearest lying family. Organized religion is the issue here. When organized religion aims to extort, control and brain wash the masses. It is not about worshiping a diety who loves you it is about instilling fear to gain control, power and money. Faith can be a beautiful thing and I believe in a higher power but I do not like organized religion as it is the cause of so much suffering. Not the followers usually but the leaders and creators of these faiths. Who then spread this cancer through out their congregations while reaping the benefits and defiling children. God is not so obsessed with premarital sex that he would rather see someone holding down a child to be raped so that baby and her senior man can avoid sex before marriage. Hell it is almost like a pedophile made this shit up. To save your purity little child who is not even pubescent, I God want you to be sexually assaulted by a man who married you simply so he could rape children.

  22. I want to know what the fuck do these nasty motherfuckers get out of fucking a little girl. Are their dicks that little. Nasty dogs.

  23. Fk basuras dios jamas dijo que se podian casar con esas niñas ellas meresen ser felices y no usadas por eso asquerosos y tambien los niños meresen ser felixes

  24. dont ever give the whores choice! ever, use them for the only things they are good for, fgm and rape!

  25. So sad when I see this video I could not believe their own parents throw them into this hell it's very very unfortunate please stop this and live a good life and save the child marriage give Lots of Love to them not throw them from your shoulders to others may GoD bless everyone.

  26. Muhammad was sexually attracted to a prepubescent girl Aisha whom he married when she was 6. Muslims cannot condemn Muhammad’s actions therefore they accept this sort of vile filthy behaviour.

  27. I think the age is too young. But this is their country and culture. Whites need to respect that. The world respected your culture of slavery for centuries.

  28. Too be honest I am boy actually but if I was going to be his daughter then I would just go and stab him in midnight then I would just NAHH I sold him to God for 2 cents I mean everyone should has his own human rights wtf do you mean by she's my daughter and I will sell it for that amount of money really Money=Humans ?

  29. Islam is a religion based on Muhammad, a pedophile who married and fucked a child and the Koran allows a man to beat his wife and says that a “good” Muslim wife must give her husband sex when he wants. Under sharia law a woman has half the value of a man in terms of inheritance and bearing witness and in some parts of Saudi Arabia they get nothing. Eleven out of the twelve countries in the world with the worst record on the ill treatment of women are MUSLIM COUNTRIES. Then there are the honour killings, FGM, arranged marriages or to give that it’s proper title arranged RAPE. If they don’t want to wear the veil they are often pressured or forced to, and in many Muslim communities they have to walk around in public in basically a tent, not allowed an education or a career and they cannot leave their home alone. And if a muslim wife wants to leave Islam? Then that’s called apostasy and the penalty for apostasy is death 💀. Oh the poor women of Islam . . . . . .

  30. Its because literally male in that country is a pedophile and should have a bullet put into their brains and then their parents tracked down if they havent blown themselves up and hang them by their fucking feet and bitch slap them with clothes bathed in pig blood

  31. 2:16 what do you expect, you little piece of shit ? You have no respect for yourself, no respect for your daughter and you want them to "respect" you after you GAVE your daughter away ? You, a father, were supposed to PROTECT her but you sent her away so don't complain about people not treasuring your daughter and I feel really bad for her.

  32. These motherfuckers in the name of god.. In the name of poverty are spreading the diseases. All those kinds of people must be wiped the fuck out of this planet. Bastards

  33. 11:34 – 11:47 I’m literally crying and shaking in anger. I just want to bunch my hand through the screen and tear out his eyes with my hands… 😭😭😭

    Edit: and at 13:36 yeah, but when she’s 22 she can decide for herself!! Ahhh…. I’m shaking….

  34. they still to this day don't know what a table, chairs or utensils are for they eat like pigs. somehow the sick cycle has to be broken. I would use an AK-47 to start with.

  35. "our circumstances were difficult and the situation was harsh"

    translation: "we needed money to feed the rest of our family so we married off our 8yo to a pedophile and were going to do the same when our other daughters turn 8"

    yemenies are fucked up

  36. Dont mix culture acts with islam what pisses me off is all these people culture with religion! When islam has nothing to do with this pedophilee rapist

  37. That bastard us asking why early marriage us a problem . I think he should send his 8 year old self into a paedophile cell and get gang raped with the most ferocious injuries. Then no law should protect him. Coz Allah allowed it. Bastard!

  38. watch this Us Americans are hypocrites more than 200,000 minors were married 2000-2015 that’s about 13,000 each year but yet we Americans look at other countries

  39. I say infidel to these deprive fathers .
    Now her father will reap her reward.
    I wonder in 10 year what will become of them.
    What kind of God will allow this insane practice.

  40. Daughter:Daddy daddy please don't sell me to a strange man I'm frightened :daddy replies ,if you don't marry him there is always the alternative,,,daughter replies: I understand of course I will marry him happerly, have a guess what the alternative is,

  41. The mainstream media the liberal media are so quick to go after the Catholics and the scamming Christians. It is only a small percentage of the problem. They never look at how big the Muslim weddings with old men marrying little girls is many times worse many times a problem many times an issue. With that I say both religions have sick ideas with these poor children. I hope the people that do this both Christians and Muslims go straight to hell and I hope they burn in a boiling pit of sewage for eternal life in hell

  42. Ubaidah was 18. She didn’t understand the words her uncle was saying because they weren’t in English and she didn’t really speak Urdu, but she did what she was told as there was so much pressure on her to marry this man who she didn’t want at all. She was told she had no choice and that her family would leave her, and she would have no one – and she would shame the family if she refused. She was so afraid. Afterwards, her aunt told her that she was now married and would be leaving her home to live with her husband. It was a sad day for Ubaidah. It was months later that Ubaidah learned her rights as a Muslim woman.”

    Islam forbids this kind of marriage, as Ubaidah was later to understand. The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “A previously married woman cannot be married off until she is consulted, and a virgin cannot be married off until she gives her consent.” He was asked: “And how does she (a shy virgin) give consent?” He replied: “By her silence.”(Bukhari and Muslim) The Scholar and Jurist, Shaikh Sālih Al-Fawzān stated: “This narration is a proof that a woman is not compelled or forced into marriage, regardless of whether she is a virgin or previously married.” She can simply say “yes” or “no”.

    In another narration, it is stated: “A young woman came to the Prophet and said that her father had married her off against her will. So, Allah’s Messenger allowed her to choose [to either stay with him or to leave him].” (Ahmad, Abu Dawood, Ibn Mājah) Islam does not allow forced marriages. But Ubaidah didn’t know till it was too late. Knowledge and knowing the God-given rights of people is very important is Islam.

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